Arriving at a crowded grade school basketball game, a friend shouted to me from her top-row bleacher, “Ellen, up here! These are Bethlehem People!” (As Bethlehem was my congregation, I headed toward familiar territory).

I belonged to Bethlehem – and its ‘people.’

That belongingness fostered friendships that included others in our ladies bible study who began socializing outside of study meetings. These cherished companions shared grief and joy and engaged in practical support efforts inside of church as well as outside; like making and serving meals for one another’s baptisms, confirmations and graduation celebrations. These are my eternal Christian sisters.

From creation, God declared it “not good” for man to be alone. His first couple multiplied mankind into countless generations of friends and families intentionally positioned to share love and dependence on one another for work, worship and day-to-day survival. By design, belonging is crucial to the human experience. Scientific research proves that such connectedness provides support, fosters happiness, reduces stress and facilitates purposeful interaction.

The essence of “Love thy neighbor” is to see others as God sees us:

Chosen.

Forgiven.

Eternally loved.

Women are uniquely wired to foster interpersonal relationships. Volunteering at school, carpooling, chaperoning - even cultivating acquaintances at the gym, in classes, clubs or with neighbors exemplifies our ability to recognize and act upon connections between people. Female radar recognizes the lonely or newcomer in group settings (like church). The Holy Spirit’s nudge to cross paths with someone new is a Divine Appointment for friendship and faith-sharing. In time, spiritual mortar strengthens our bond.

Reaching out in kindness illuminates Jesus’ hands and feet in a tangible way. After all, sharing God’s grace is mission #1. My congregation’s Shepherd’s Fold Ministry is an example of fostered connectedness. Shut-ins are paired with volunteer members who show love by delivering goodies and praying for those who are isolated by circumstances. Both parties with the blessings of serving and being served by members who belong to the same church.

“I led them with cords of human kindness, with ties of love. To them I was like one who lifts a little child to the cheek, and I bent down to feed them.” Hosea 11:4

After each Sunday service, our Pastor dismisses us with: “Greet those around you: they’re the ones you’ll be in heaven with someday.” The body of Christ embraces this slice-of-heaven fellowship. New churches often include a generous sized narthex where members can build and strengthen each other as we share common interests and experiences. This motivates more workers for the whole Christian church on earth and builds relationships that flourish beyond church walls and into eternity.

“Blest be the ties that binds our hearts in Christian love; the fellowship of kindred minds is like to that above.” Hymn 494 CW

What are some examples of Cords of Kindness you see? Comment below to prompt ideas for others!